We attended David's cousin's wedding yesterday. It was at a vinyeard about 45 minutes from here, so we were happy that we live close enough to go. DL's parents were here, his Aunt Julie and Uncle Ralph from Montana and his Grandma. Also a variety of cousins taht we haven't seen for ages. A great time was had by all. Especially since our boys were home with a babysitter!On a different note, I realize that I have 4 more weeks of church to attend, but I already know they will be painful. Since there are not any local people that have seen me pregnant before, they do not realize that I actually am not THAT big. With Henry and Calvin, I was easily an additional 15 pounds heavier at this point.
If I hear...
"Are you having twins?"
"You must be over due."
"You look like you could have this baby at any minute."
ONE MORE TIME, someone might get hit.
I am just giving fair warning to those out there. It's not that I am tired of being pregnant or that I even feel that uncomfortable, it's just the level of insensitivity.
My own Relief Society President said,
"You are already so big and you STILL have 4 weeks left. I can't believe it!"
And her daughter just had a baby a few months ago. You would think she would be more compassionate.
So on that note, I feel good, I think I even look pretty good and I am excited for said baby to arrive, but I am enjoying these last 4 weeks before baby #3 makes it's appearance.
And I am not fishing for compliments, just stating the facts.
14 comments:
I know your pain, ladies at church would say " when is that baby due"? when I still had six weeks left and I was no bigger than the last two! Or "I don't know how you can get any bigger" was another favorite, I was lucky and was able to share those coments with the Bishops wife since we were due a week apart, and we were the same size.( Although her baby was 11 pounds and mine was 7 1/2).(And yes she had a natural delivery and had the baby from first contraction to birth in 2 hours!)All I can say is people can be very rude! You look wonderful!
I was amazed at how sensitive I got toward the last few weeks of my pregnancy, or maybe how rude people got. I got all of those comments, I mean honestly, who in their right mind asks a pregnant lady if she's having twins! I thought that was an urban legend. Isn't that against some sort of societal code? Similar with, "Wow, you're sure getting big" or "I didn't think you could get any bigger." It's like men leaving up the toilet seat, I always thought it was a myth until I got married.
I got to where I dreaded going to church those last few weeks. I heard "What are you still doing here?" at least 5 times each Sunday. However one very nice older lady said to me one Sunday, "I am so glad to see you here with us today! Don't you listen when people say they don't want to see you here."
You really look great.
whatever. you totally don't look big enough to deliver. you're gorgeous! love your outfit.
It really is amazing what people find the nerve to say. I think Miss Manners would feel you justified to say completely stone-faced, "Why, Insensitive-Commenter, I have no idea why you'd think I was having twins." And let your stoney silence teach them a lesson in manners.
You look ADORABLE!
I think you look totally cute and not that big (not big enough for those kind of comments!) I got comments like that too, and they are tiring arn't they?!
That David, he is a stunning man. He will be missed this weekend when Chris comes down.
Kelly,
I am dying at your Miss Manners comment. I would love to call someone, "insensitive-commenter".
Thanks for the words of encouragement guys. I guess I'll keep going to church :)
The best part is that the Young Women never say anything except how much they love my jewelry. It's a good thing I spend so much time with them.
And yes, Peach Pit, I do agree. DL is a stunning man.
i think you need to "use your words" and say "wow, that makes me feel really good that you think I am that huge". they probably have no idea how dorky they are.
and then be smug in the knowledge that your kids are cuter than theirs.
I don't especially remember being irked at people saying "are you still here?" because frankly I was irked at myself for still being there!! (this is the woman who had babies 11 to 13 days late mind you!)
But I do remember staying home one Sunday because I didn't feel well - or maybe nothing fit anymore - and Harry saying, "You're not staying home again unless you have the baby - I'm tired of being asked "Where's Barbara, did you have your baby??"
And you are cute - and don't look all that huge to me - (this is the woman who gained 50 lbs. when pregnant with Phoebe!!) and you do have cuter kids than all of theirs!
And I can't wait to address someone as "insensitive commenter!!" (being insensitive, they probably won't get it!!)
I also have a hard time understanding people who make comments like that. I mean, were they never pregnant before? You look adorable.
Like I said at 35 weeks - you look great! I think some people thinks it's OK to say or do anything (i.e. touch the belly) to a pregnant women or the baby when it comes out (I can't count the number of times I thought, "DON"T TOUCH MY BABY!!! I don't even know who you are!" when my little ones were newborns). Maybe we should start a pregnancy etiquette awareness movement.
I've always thought you were completely adorable at every stage of pregnancy and I've seen you all the way through!!
I too love the outfit and am wondering if the T's are downeastbasics? I just got 3 in the mail today!
Thanks again everyonef or your encouraging comments!
Cheryl, my t-shirts are Shade Clothing. I have tried Downeast and they fit too big in the shoulders for me. But they are my regular ones, I never ordered any maternity ones.
I feel well armed for next Sunday's comments. I'll let you know how it goes.
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